Is Any Excuse Worth Saying?

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We were having a cool conversation this morning post Thrancy about "self-talk" and the words we choose to speak.  

One of the more fascinating things I can think of is the fact that all humans do things that don't serve themselves or anyone.  As far as I can tell, complaining falls into this category (is this me complaining? ;) ).  We all do it, but why do we complain or make excuses?  The answers are far too vast and personal to go into detail here, but there is an idea that may be very helpful and worth noting.

A lot of what we say is all about conditioning, habit and what they call in Indian philosophy, samskaras - patterns of behavior.  Whatever it is we do or say only makes it more likely for us to do or say that same thing in the future.  You've heard it before - creatures of habit.  

If complaining doesn't serve the complainer or anyone else, especially the people in close proximity, and more complaining only leads to an increased likelihood of further complaining, then doesn't it make sense to work on not complaining?  

But what about the idea that it is important to let out these emotions - "it's how I vent".  Well for one, there are an infinite amount of ways other than complaining where one can express or move that energy.  Again, not enough space here.  But also, this mindset can be dangerous or deleterious because, as we said before, complaining only increases the likelihood of more complaining - and why make things harder on yourself? 

So what gives?  I certainly don't know, but it seems to make sense to me that with the "right" perspective (be kind to yourself), vowing to never complain again is a good idea. 

And what happens when you stay away from negative self-talk and speak like complaining?  Well, by default there is only one other option - you start to see the glass as half full instead of half empty.   

So when you're running your fourth 400 in Thrancy, and all you want to do is list the excuses about why you can't run faster, instead (since you've been practicing not complaining), you decide you are actually good and you don't need to slow town.  And WAMO!  There you go serving yourself in a positive way.

That's the whole point - why not practice things we know are going to be good or beneficial for us and others, while at the same time less frequently doing those things that make our lives less enjoyable?

It takes practice.  Be gentle with yourself.  Rome wasn't built in a day?  

These two videos may look vastly different from the outside, but internally, for all we know, Mat Frasers world could be very similar to Mr. Goldsteins. 
We all have the ability and power to transform the most important aspect of our lives, and that is our minds.  CrossFit provides an incredible opportunity to experiment with this idea. 

Undoubtedly you have a take or opinion on this subject.  I certainly don't have the answers but would love to hear your perspective/thoughts.


5 rounds:
400 meter run
15 thrusters (65/95lb)