“The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.” - Carl Roger
Thought experiment if you’d like to participate…
Are there places in your life where you find yourself experiencing that something is wrong or missing? In other words saying to yourself, “there’s something wrong, there’s something missing.”
The “wrong” likely has to do with fear, and the “missing” can be thought of as a wanting - fearing something bad may or is happening, and wanting something to be different or change - because once we can fix what’s wrong and what’s missing, then it’ll or I’ll be _______.
If you’re unsure about this, the body can be helpful to bring clarity to experience. Do you feel like you’re resisting any part of your experience at the moment? Or “contracting” against something? Resistance and contraction are often experienced when we’re fearing and/or wanting.
Another way to think about it is in terms of pushing and pulling - pushing something away (fear) or pulling toward something (wanting).
“The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.”
Being in the middle of an intense CrossFit workout can be very informative. These painful places can tell us a lot about how we approach or experience life. For example when sprinting on the assault bike, is there resistance to the experience, wanting or wishing it was over or different? Or any workout for that matter. How much of our inner dialogue is not accepting, allowing and welcoming what is happening? This is something most effectively understood through experience, so if you’re called to, next time you’re in one of those “dark places” in a CrossFit workout, see if you can notice if you’re resisting what’s happening or allowing it. If you feel like you’re resisting it, which is probably the case for most of us (I know me), see how it feels to welcome it. You may try saying to yourself, “welcome everything,” and then see what happens.
The end goal in this perspective is always enjoyment and performance - they are proportionate variables. Love what you do, and you’ll perform at your peak - resist what is, and experience suffering.
“Welcome everything, push away nothing.”
(To be clear this doesn’t mean welcoming in abuse or anything like that. In that case welcoming could be in the form of whatever support the abused person needs. Welcoming help from a friend or police for example.)
If you’re curious or inspired by this idea, check the (incredible) book on bottom of page.
Today was the first time I had Andrea in class. My sense is that while learning movements she was very open and welcoming to coaching and/or her bodies innate wisdom.
3 Sets to build to a heavy set of 5 Barbell Z Press
8 KB Row/Side
8 DB Bench Press @ slight incline (45# plate under the bench)
7 Minute AMRAP:
7 SDHP (1 KB each hand) (35/26#)
Rest 3 Minutes
3 Minute AMRAP:
Burpee to a target 8" above reach